I went to the dentist last week. Not something I really look forward to, but the visit is a part of taking good care of myself. I had a less than loving dentist when I was a kid and pain and fear was often involved in my childhood visits. So for a long time I associated fear with the dentist, even after becoming an adult and finding an incredibly compassionate dentist.
The fear felt automatic – as if I had no control over it. As soon as I knew I had a visit, I started to fear. By the time I actually got to the dentist’s office, I had worked myself up so much that I was hyper alert and stressed.
My dentist noticed my anxiety (it was a little hard to miss) and came up with some solutions. Surprise, I was not the only person who has dental anxiety. I know that may sound silly, but it really was an epiphany moment for me. I thought I was the only one who was so “weird” (yes, I was judging myself) about a little dentist visit.
We tried different things until I was finally comfortable. And if you experience any dental anxiety, I encourage you to talk to your dentist. I found that some things worked for me and some things did not, so it is a personal and unique solution for all of us – just like everything in life.
My dentist has loving photos, music, sayings – all around his office. And beautiful posters on the ceiling that you can look at while being worked on. There was a new one this visit that I really loved (and thought it applied to so many situations). A Chinese proverb.
“Sometimes we are not where we want to be, but where we need to be.”
Stepping away from our fears means to take charge and to let go at the same time. I let go of the painful memories – I disconnected them from my current experiences. I understood that my past memories cannot hurt me now. Then I tried new things until I found what works for me. I was patient with myself and allowed myself to feel good about sometimes being not where I wanted to be.
Now I allow myself to feel great about taking really good care of myself. We can all look at our fears honestly and meet them with loving solutions.
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