How To Be Calm In Chaos

How can we be calm in the midst of chaos?  We know we cannot control the behavior of others.  People will act they way they act.  Situations can seem to be out of control.  Chaos and confusion are highly charged energies.  It is easy to buy into them.

We can take a big, deep breath.  We can step back and take ourselves out of the situation.  We can observe instead of reacting.  We can allow others to be who they are, experiencing what they are experiencing – without it affecting us.  Respect others, but step out of their chaos.  Find a place of peace within, where you fully understand that you have choices.  Where you know that you can choose to respond, rather than react.

I fully understand this does not come easy at first.  I find that daily meditation gives me a place I can refer to and go to in times of external chaos.  I find that taking a deep breath before I speak often helps me figure out that I really do not need to say anything at all.  I also find that taking a moment out, even if only in my mind, can remind me that I have a choice.  I can choose calm even when others would like me to choose chaos.

Be an observer today.  Just listen in.  Do not accept anyone’s chaos as your own.


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  1. Thank you I’m going through the toughest thing I’ve ever had to deal with, I’m a licensed professional counselor myself but I’ve had a friend pass, and my daughter is living at my parents for how long I don’t know. So chaos is among me but your post helped root and center me. Thank you so much!!


    • Hi Whitney, you are very welcome. I know how challenging it can be to have personal things going on while working in the helping field. Wishing you all the peace and calm you need in this time. 💛


  2. Taking a deep breath and realizing you did not have to say anything at all is exactly right – so many thoughts we make concrete with our words and the whole domino’s affect of it becoming actioned really starts with our mind and it seems silly in afterthought that people don’t remember that power

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