In the play, The Man of La Mancha, Don Quixote tries to fight a windmill.  He thinks it is a giant.

How many times have we mistaken a windmill for a giant?  How many times have we mistaken something someone says or does?  How many times have we thought our loved one is really a dangerous creature?

When people are lashing out, it rarely has anything to do with us.  They hurt, so they lash.  Something we have done reminds them of their own pain.  It strikes a chord within them, but it is about them – not about us.  But many times we see a fierce monster instead of what they really are – someone who is hurting deeply.

The next time you think you see a giant, ask yourself – is this really a windmill?  Am I seeing clearly?  Is someone I love in pain?  When we come from a place of compassion for the people we love, it can make a huge difference in all of our lives.  We can be the one who begins the healing.